It’s a rough world for some of us who want to grow in their career or even find a career path to start with. I’ve felt like an ant in this big old world trying to find my way through a career path (multiple times). I’ve felt like I’ve been stomped on by multiple people, and I’ve fought my way up to give myself life again.
We now start to see the movement “Women supporting other women.” I’m sorry, but where was this movement when I was trying to start my career in the fashion industry back in 2013? I was an intern for 5 months at a fashion PR boutique. I had quit my job as a receptionist at a law firm, a law firm where I was encouraged to learn more about depositions and city outreach. I left that all behind because I was a fashion marketing major with a career goal to make it in the fashion industry.
I was thrilled that I was given a chance to be an intern assisting in merchandising, media outreach, celebrity seeding, and events. Turns out, it wasn’t as luxurious as it sounded. My boss literally sounded like she wanted to be Miranda Priestly from the Devil Wears Prada. I was a full-time unpaid intern working from the hours of 8am-6pm. I ran around town running errands, dropping off gifting to celebrities, and dropping off garments. I felt overworked, but the dream to make it in the industry was still a huge focus and passion of mine. Three months in, and I was already asking if I could be hired full time or if I could at least receive a good recommendation for my future endeavors. My boss reassured me that she would give me a stellar recommendation. Little did I know, as I turned around she was telling her assistant that she would never recommend me anywhere. As soon as I found out, I was crushed. I felt like I did everything right in the book. Why would someone be so cruel in that way? I was even asked to stay a few months more. It made no sense.
Did I stay? I sure did. Maybe I was dumb in doing so, but I didn’t want to be a failure and I still had high hopes that maybe she would recommend me. Let’s just say the opportunity was not there. I continued my journey in the public relations/marketing industry, this time with a focus on events and product placement. Boy did I keep facing hard times. Sexual harassment by my boss in events- I remember getting the awkward speech followed by his hand on my knee, “you know what you have to do to get to a high position in the industry, don’t you?” My heart was racing, I could feel heavy lumps in the back of my throat starting to rise, followed my raging anger. I immediately took his hand off my knee and told him he messed with the wrong girl. I remember calling my father, and I couldn’t even get the words out. I was sobbing for hours. The next day, I marched into this guys office, and I quit. I made sure to be loud enough so that his assistant could hear it all. Turns out his assistant quit after hearing it all.
I faced a few more career failures after those major incidents, but I always found a way to keep my head up. I was starting to think maybe I was on the wrong career path. There are five things I did to alter my career path:
- Find a career mentor! I am a huge fan of Career Contessa, so of course, I had spotted out their mentor services. The only problem is, I was broke and the pricing was not in my budget. So what did I do? I found the career mentor I had been reading about on LinkedIn, who also helped build Nasty Gal, and I personally reached out. It might have been creepy, but I was desperate for help and I think she could read between the lines- I really did need help. We outlined my career path with my skills and she was able to connect me with some people in the industry.
- Alter your LinkedIn. You are branding yourself after all, so make sure you include every detail of your past experiences. Make sure you are adding in all the skills you’ve acquired. Use your best SEO skills to highlight the most important job functions. Recruiters are always doing boolean search, which means they are looking for specific keywords in their search.
- Research! Thank god for Glass Door reviews and LinkedIn insights to help determine if a company is a good fit or not. I would spend my time looking into how many years people have been in the company, how long it took them to be promoted, and what the company culture is like. The more research you do on a company and the people who will be interviewing you, the better chance you have in having a stellar interview.
- Be persistent. Always remember to send a thank you email after speaking with someone. Even if you didn’t receive the opportunity to interview or to move on to the second round of interviews. With that, always remember to follow up if you have not heard back. This shows the hiring manager that you are in fact interested. Remember to also never give up. There will be instances where you never hear back from a gig at all, and that’s okay. Just keep n moving and keep your head up. Timing is everything.
- Have a voice. Holy Shiz…it took me four years to finally love my career path and the people I work with. I learned that setting time with my directors and talking about my goals was a great way to excel in my career. Never be afraid to give your opinions for better strategy or to talk about your goals with your higher-ups. Feedback is the best thing you can receive from anyone who sees your work ethic on a daily basis.
When I look in the mirror, I’m actually okay with what I see. It’s the pictures and angles that make me feel so self-conscious. When I’m feeling insecure about my body image, I always remind myself of the following (yes, I pep talk myself):
- “Jeanette, this is your body. The one body you were given life into. Love yourself.”
- “You work out so hard to feel good and in hopes to inspire those around you. Don’t give up the hard work.”
- “Girl you chose this outfit! You look great! Now go on and rock it!”
My best friend is my photographer 90% of the time. Every time she takes a picture of me, I’ve asked “Wait! Is my belly hanging out? Do I look fat?” She rolls her eyes at me and tells me I need to stop asking those kinds of questions. The tone of voice that she takes clearly states that she is very much annoyed with the questions and my lack of confidence.
It’s so easy to consume yourself into a black box of thoughts, but the most important thing to remember is to build the courage to step out of your comfort zone. Let it be a constant reminder that beauty comes in all sizes, ages, genders, etc. Celebrate and praise your own body at all times.
This year, I made two goals for myself. Work out harder than ever and to build confidence. I’ve kept up with both so far. I do have “off” days- everyone does and it’s normal. These kinds of goals don’t just magically grant themselves overnight. They take time. So, trust the path that you’ve created for yourself and trust time. It sounds silly, but I highly recommend the pep talk and making goals for your road to self-love.
All the best,
Lately, I’ve been in this “tired” phase. Too tired to make an effort on my face, but still making the maximum effort to keep my skin looking great with skincare (if that makes any sense). I’ve been going with the minimal makeup look, and I kind of love it. Why Kind of? Well, because my lash extensions are all gone, and I have those thin lashes you could barely see. Mascara is hardly even visible on my lashes.
Anyway, one I’ve washed my face I’ve been applying The Ordinary products on my face- they have become a favorite brand of fine. The Vitamin C suspension serum stings for the first few days, but my kin has now gotten used to it (it’s supposed to sting, your skin is just adapting to it). The Vitamin C suspension serum has actually reduced my acne scars, has reduced lines on my forehead, and has made my skin baby butt soft! I then apply The Ordinary’s hyaluronic Acid 2% +B5 Serum, which gives me the ultimate surface hydration on my face.
I then add the Red Earth hydrating moisturizer. I actually picked this moisturizer up from Madewell, and figured I’d give it a shot. It smells very spa-like, which I’m okay with. It’s also very light and gentle.
Before applying tinted moisturizer, I add some of Organy’s lash serum in hopes it’ll help my lashes heal after most of my real lashes were tugged off by the extensions. I’ve been using this organic lash serum for about two weeks, and I’ve noticed a subtle change. Full disclosure, I haven’t kept up with applying the serum twice a day. Hope to see better results in a couple of weeks.
The tinted moisturizer that I have been adding to my face is the Dew Skin Moisturizing Coverage – SPF 20 from Beauty Counter. My cousin is a beauty consultant for this brand, and she swears by it. This tinted moisturizer definitely gives me some sort of life on those “tired” days. My skin does, in fact, look dewy and it actually makes my highlighter pop a little more. I would recommend this for any on-the-go girl or for anyone that loves the using very minimal makeup.
Hope you guys enjoyed a little snippet of what goes on my face. I could keep going, but this blog would turn into a chapter. Make sure to check these brands out 🙂
My 27th birthday just passed, and I went into full recovery mode (hence why I’ve been so MIA). I decided to celebrate my birthday with some wine tasting out in Paso Robles. My cousins, friends and I headed out at 6am from Los Angeles on 4/21/18 and arrived in Paso around 8:45am. It was so early for my liking, but trust me I had my Summer Friday’s Jet Lagged mask on the entire time.
As soon as we arrived into Paso Robles, I was in complete awe. The scenery is beautiful beyond words. We stayed in a motel (YES I said it- a MOTEL) and it was the cutest motel I’ve seen thus far. I recommend a stay at Farm House Motel if there’s any curiosity in spending a weekend out in Paso Robles. They have a cute little garden area where we popped a bottle of champagne in celebration of our fine weekend ahead of us.
Our wine line tour bus picked us up at 10:40am and took us on our way to 5 wineries. Long story short, I had an amazing time tasting every wine on the tasting menus. We stopped to have lunch (which we packed ourselves) at the Eberle Winery. We sat outside and enjoy the weather and the scenery.
There were so many photos taken from this trip, I wish I could share them all. I needed this trip. It was very good for my soul. I laughed so much and created new memories with my gal tribe. I wanted to share my outfit details with you before I close out. I wore a cute cut out midi dress from Express and A New Day Sandals from Target. I paired up the outfit with my YSL clutch, Persol sunnies, and a Kollectin ring.
Hope you guys enjoyed my synopsis of a good wine weekend getaway.
I recently took up a discount from Mikasa Beauty that I could not pass up on. I got myself a set of brushes, and it’s about the best brush set I own. My mother has been working at Merle Norman Cosmetics since I could remeber, and brush sets or makeup have always come my way anytime I ask for it, so as you could imagine- I have a ton of face brushes.
I love the lightweight feathery feeling from the bristles. These soft bristles make my makeup look airbrushed. Another key point to these brushes is that it doesn’t leave behind any loose bristles on my face. I originally packed my brushes up in my gym bag, so I could use them while getting ready for work in the mornings, but I’ve found myself using my Mikasa Beauty brushes more than expected. They have become part of my everyday use, and I love it.
Thank you Mikasa Beauty Team!
Once you go Dr. Jart+ you never go back. Well, that’s the case for me. I’ve been in love with this color correcting treatment ever since I saw a raving review on Sephora’s website. I’ve used every last scoop there is in the jar. When wearing without makeup, it gives me a vibrant natural glow. When I do apply makeup, it gives me a flawless – camera ready- look. The best part about this product is that it contains Broad Spectrum SPF 30.
So, what made me pick this product? At the time, I would get red blotches on my face- especially after a hot shower. After applying foundation, I would still visibly see the redness. Dr.Jart’s color correcting treatment added extra coverage – a natural one. I also had visible dark circles under my eyes and I hated how tired I looked in photos. After a applying the color correcting treatment under my eyes, it helped minimize the appearance of my dark circles (with concealer on top of course.) I also noticed that the treatment worked as a great primer.
How I use my Color correcting treatment:
After I’ve washed my face, applied toner, vitamin C + hyaluronic acid, and light moisturizer- I then apply Dr. Jart’s color correcting treatment all over my face while adding a little more care to problem areas. After that skin/beauty regime I feel picture perfect 😉
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